Perspective is Everything
“When you change the way you see things, the things you see change.” Wayne Dyer
Why do goals fail?
Creating goals that work is a skill. Our experience as coaches tell us that goals fail not because we’re weak but because we fail to look at our mindset. That’s where taking time to break down and design your goals as you manifest them comes in. Being vague about what you want and how you’re going to get there is unhelpful. When we start to break down our goals and look at what’s really involved, we begin to identify the kind of mindset we’re taking into our goal manifestation. It’s an “Aha” moment when we realise, that our thinking is keeping us stuck.
If you’re telling yourself that your goals are impossible, it’s time to create a new perspective. Create a new mental setting. Retire those outdated thoughts and feelings to make way for transformation. As Wayne Dyer famously said, change the way you see things and those things begin to change. Here’s how to create goals that work.
Create new beliefs
Decide what you want & and identify a belief that supports your newly created reality. Gather supporting evidence for your new belief and take action that aligns with your true values and purpose. Be open to opportunities that present themselves. When synchronicity presents a situation where you can do something differently (and it will) go for it. Don’t sit on the sidelines, embrace new opportunities as if you already have the goals you’ve set. Each time you take action in line with your new values, you’ll feel the paradigm shift. Creating goals that work depend on your belief that you can.
Affirmations and creating goals that work
Create an affirmation to disrupt your thinking e.g. “I see change as a challenge and enjoy building my resilience.” Repeat it daily to create a fundamental change in your approach and underlying assumptions.
Create new self talk
Researchers at Northumbria University recruited 14 cyclists to measure the impact of different types of self talk on performance. Barwood et al discovered that the cyclists performance improved when they implemented motivational self talk. Their rating of perceived exertion (RPE), the effort they were using, also decreased with the positive self talk. Not only did this strategy enhance their pace and overall time it also had a positive impact on their future performance. The cyclists displaying negative self talk achieved consistently poorer results. Change “I can’t” to “I can” and begin to develop a growth mindset.
Growth Mindset for goals
Take time to develop a growth mindset. Recognise that you have a choice in terms of how you respond when things don’t go as planned. Identify your self talk – if there’s an inner grinch putting you down or telling you it’s impossible, learn how to silence it. The free Growth Mindset Toolkit on Positive Change Guru is a great place to begin honing your growth mindset skills.
We’ll leave you with one of our favourite quotes from Robin Sharma for inspiration.
“Don’t live the same year 75 times and call it a life.”